Once you become pregnant everyone wants to share with your their opinion on everything even when it’s not asked. After a few months (or weeks in some cases) you learn to politely smile and ignore their un-solicited advice. What absolutely drives me crazy are the comments that people say innocently, however they don’t realize they can be offensive.
1. Was it planned?
I mean, does it really matter? When sharing exciting news that you are expecting, the proper answer is Congratulations. Whether or not you are surprised by someone’s news it really makes no difference. It’s an exciting time either way!
2. Are you sure you don’t have twins in there?
Maybe they should just tell you flat out that they think you’ve gained a lot of weight because this question is outright rude. Every woman carries differently during pregnancy. Some bellies get bigger faster than others and some people don’t ever get truly big. With the amount of testing pregnant women go through – yes she is positive she is not having twins!
3. I think you’re having a…..
I got this a lot and it drove me nuts. There are so many old wives tails and honestly they mean nothing. For example, a lot of morning sickness in the 1st trimester can sometimes mean you are having a girl. Well, I had morning sickness for 6 straight weeks and I am having a boy so what is your point again?
4. Well, you are breastfeeding right?
How a mother decides to feed her child isn’t really appropriate for others to ask (or judge). Some people want to breast feed while others do not. Some people want to try it and see how it goes, others do not. It’s really a personal choice and women should not feel guilted one way or another.
5. It’s about time!
I swear, once you have been married for a year people think that you must now be trying to have a baby. Well, not everyone feels that way and it’s super frustrating to feel like everyone is watching your every move. Every time I ordered a vodka soda pre pregnancy, I felt like people were questioning whether or not it was truly an alcoholic beverage or not.
6. I thought you can’t eat or drink that?
Pregnant women are at the doctor so frequently they are well aware in most cases of what they can and cannot do. This is one of the first things the OBGYN goes over with you and pregnant women have plenty of doctors they don’t need more un solicited opinions on their diet.
7. So, when are you going to have another baby?
Seriously, can I have this one first? Many couples think they want a certain number of children and that can very quickly change (for more or less) after having one so let them just enjoy this time.
8. What is the baby’s name?
Some people are very nosy when it comes to this. My husband and I for example, are keeping this a secret until our son is born. We don’t want a lot of judgment or opinions when it comes to his name. We have some options we love and that what matters. Let couples share with you if they are sharing name ideas.
9. I only gained X amount of weight when I was pregnant
Well good for you. Those women that decide to share this fun fact are just outright rude. Everyone gains and loses weight at different paces. Some women can workout throughout their pregnancy while others can’t. In no world is saying this to a pregnant women ok.
10. Get all the sleep you can now!
Moms-to-be are well aware of the sleepless nights in their future. We don’t need people to remind us. It’s hard enough sleeping well during pregnancy (I don’t know about you but I am up every hour or two to use the bathroom) so they are pretty up to speed on what is coming their way.